Walking Stories

She’s on the bench in the park, 2pm everyday.
She sits on there for 30 minutes, staring into space
She hardly notices anyone or anything happening around
But 2:30pm on the dot, she rises with gusto and heads back to work

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They come to the same park everyday to get time to spend together
Their lunchtime at work is between 1:30pm and 2:30pm
So they walk in hand in hand, holding their lunch packs in the other hand
And sit across her, trying not to stare

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She loves having lunch with him daily
Because between their schedule and commute, this is the only free time
But she wishes so much to be her
To sit on the park bench alone, taking it all in, the sight, the wind, the sun… the peace

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He’s never loved anyone like he loves her
It aches him so much that all he gets is one hour of her time daily
What aches more is sensing her need for solitude
Because he’s not sure he can let her have it

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He brings his kid to the park at the same time daily
It’s always just the two of them
They do not mix with other families
They are content in the company of each other

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He wants to be the best father there is
And the time they spend together at the park is one of the many ways he’s found
Since he lost his wife three months ago, he’s put in everything he could muster into loving his kid
Like momma would have loved

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His dad is everything, he knows he tries so hard for him but he misses momma
Because the light dad once had is gone, he’s no longer brimming with enthusiasm
If only he could meet someone new…
He glances towards her; she was always alone and she looked pretty calm and approachable

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He’s the guard at the park who’s always on the daytime shift
He watches her every time she comes in at 2pm, alone
He watches her walk to the exact bench they used to sit in and have lunch daily – before he died
He looks at the couple across her; eating silently, and wonders if they appreciated what they had

walking stories

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We are walking stories;
Of whos and hows and whys.

The Valentine’s Situation

Boy and Girl

 

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Single

(Boy) and (Girl) are alone

(Boy) and (Girl) try not to be bothered, it’s only Valentine’s afterall

(Boy) and (Girl) are actually a tiny bit bothered

Lovestruck

Boy meets girl

Boy wants to impress girl

Boy goes overboard

Smitten

Boy gets girl

Boy and girl are in love

Boy and girl go overboard

Unmushy

Boy and girl are crazy in love

Boy and girl constantly have a straight face

Boy and girl never acknowledge Valentine’s

One-Sided

Boy and girl are official

Boy has stopped trying

Girl goes overboard

Indifferent

Boy and girl have been together a while

Everything is “norms” now

They say “Val’s is for kids”

Supposed-to-be Current Situation (In Nigeria)

Boy and girl “wantu” try

Everything is still “norms” man

Boy and girl thought they would call each other to say “Happy Valentine’s BAE, Vote with love”

But alas! Jega shifted dates for elections

Now Boy and Girl have to figure out stuff.

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Let me know where you fall in at the end of today. :)

Happy Valentine’s guys.

Will You Marry Me?

*shivers*

Oh how I love love!

Mine’s the insane kinda unrealistic fairytalish love that I love. You know, the kind when this guy runs 700 miles – when he cudda taken a bike – just to say “I love you and I want to be with you”.

Makes me shiver :)

That ain’t my flow, be calm.

I’m here to tell you about the very first proposal I ever witnessed and the sweetness of it all. Call me sentimental, but it brought tears to my eyes :)

Where to start…

July 23, 2011

It was my graduation. Mine and my 3 besties. We called us “The Orangutans”.

Convocation in my school was a month long event. We’d start with TTG (Towards a Total Graduate/Towards the Gate :) ) and then transit into four days of real activities that are actually the graduation ceremonies. It was in the third day we spotted him. The third day was a Saturday and we were getting sworn in as alumni of the prestigious Covenant University.

We – The Orangutans – sat in the last four seats on the row, bored to death, then he passed by! And suddenly we were at alert!

“See that cute alumni guy” that was Moyin.

Tope and I looked in agreement and the conversation continued from there. Dami, however, looked exactly like the uninterested smiley on BBM.

Let me quickly tell you a little about Dami. She’s a grinch. Raining on our parade was like what she lived for. It literally took at least 3 bottles of coke to get her half as excited as we usually were, but she hardly took coke :( . We loved her that way.

Back to the story…

So this cute alumni guy’s name is Taiwo. Taiwo is cute. Very cute. haha!

Later that evening, we had our graduation dinner and guess who was introduced to the trio (I was missing) Mr. Cute Alumni. Dami, once again, was forming uninterested, but that’s how love stories in all those romantic novels we bored ourselves with, started, yes?

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August 16, 2014

Three years, three weeks and  three days after that evening, in the early hours of the night, all of Dami and Mr. Cute Alumni’s most important friends are gathered together to celebrate his birthday.

You see, Dami had planned a surprise birthday for him to make him happy around the people he loved but he had bigger plans.

He had somehow found a way to hack into this carefully planned out surprise dinner and own it, and damn well, he owned it!

Somewhere in between our bants, Taiwo got up and said he wanted to say a few things to Dami, that’s where it all begun :)

Three crazy things that made me shiver in the “I love love” kinda way:

– Before he started his bants, he set the mood! He had cued in a song with the DJ. It was one of the earliest songs Dami had sent him when they started out. It was When God Made You – Newsong and Natalie Grant. You should listen to it, you’ll be teary eyed :) It was such a cute moment!

– He said he’d gone ahead to ask her dad for his blessings, so he could confidently propose :) It was such a sweet and mature thing to do.

– He got down on that knee yo! The knee thing is almost a cliche now, I know, but it’s the thing fairytales are made of! And we love it!

In all of it, that day reeked of cuteness (Dami is crazy cute too) and love and I just had to pen it down.

P.S.: As we do not have the date yet, save the hashtag #DamiTaiwo2015! We finna turn up!

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Of chocolates, roses… and love

Typical me would be here today, yapping about how love should be true.
Speaking of chivalry and how unless it’s mad passionate extraordinary love, it’s a waste of time.
That would be typical me.
I ain’t typical anymore. I ain’t saying any of those.

Love is yours. Own it.
And, have a happy overrated day.

 

Love,
Konko.

Things I’ve Learnt

Err, skip the title.  I haven’t learnt all these things, what, I’m only 22!

Far back when I was 19, I was still a radio junkie. I was listening to one of those shows they had on Cool FM in the night – don’t remember the title or the show now – and the presenter read out all of these with the title “I’ve learnt that…”. I was an agile kid, I took it all down. All of it didn’t add up then, they still all don’t add up now, but, I like them and I’m sharing them and you’re gonna read them 😛

You heard!

I’ve learnt that,

  • Just because you like someone doesn’t mean they’ll like you back
  • It takes years to build trust but only seconds to destroy it
  • You can get on charm for about 15 seconds, after that you had better know something
  • You shouldn’t compare yourself to the best others can do, but the best you can do
  • We don’t have to change friends if we understand that friends change
  • You shouldn’t be so eager to find out a secret, it could change your life forever
  • Two people can look at the exact same thing and see something different
  • There are many ways of falling and staying in love
  • Your life can be changed in a matter of hours by people who don’t know you
  • The paradigm we live is not all that’s offered to us
  • What you see isn’t always what you get
  • It’s not what happens to people that’s important, it’s what they do about it
  • No matter how thin you slice it, there are always two sides
  • You should always leave loved ones with loving words; it may be the last time you’ll see them
  • You can’t keep going long after you think you can’t
  • No matter how broken your heart is, the world doesn’t stop for your grief
  • The law of give and it shall be given unto you, doesn’t always apply
  • Good or bad sex is just a thing of the mind
  • Just because two people argue doesn’t mean they don’t love each other and because they don’t doesn’t mean they do
  • Sometimes, you have to put the individual ahead of their actions
  • Our backgrounds and circumstances may have influenced who we are, but we are responsible for who we become
  • Sometimes when friends fight, you’re forced to choose sides even when you don’t want to
  • Heroes are people who do what needs to be done, regardless of the consequences
  • Learning to forgive takes practice
  • No matter how good someone is, they’re going to hurt you every once in a while and you must forgive them for that
  • It isn’t always enough to be forgiven by others, sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself
  • Absence most times doesn’t make the heart grow fonder
  • Bad things happen to good people
  • The patient dog might just die of hunger
  • Not everyone is cut out for marriage
  • Change is the only constant thing in life

That’s all folks!